The Transition

Hello, to all the faceless people who might end up reading this. Hello to all those faces who I know might end up reading this. Let me just start by saying things are good. My life has never been boring. It certainly won’t start now will it? Let’s hope it does. Before I go any further, I want to tell this one person, who does read my blog that this blog is in no terms about you. Even a little bit, so please read this with a grain of salt…. And if you need any more help figuring out who I am talking about then let me please give you a hint, ‘The Man 2’.

Now, that I have gotten that out of the way let’s talk about what’s been going on. I’m here in Abu Dhabi, UAE. I have come here to say goodbye to this place as a second home. For the past five years, I have had a residence visa of this country. Now however I will have to hand it back to the Arabs. Well no harm in that. The thing is I can’t quite decide whether I should be sad or happy. I have conflicting emotions about this change.

So let’s start with why I would be happy. My father has lived here for the past five years. Meaning we live with our mother in Pakistan. And believe me it has been really really difficult. Our society is a male dominated society, and I never once realized the full extent of that statement till my father moved away. Well now I do. And I appreciate all that men do for their women.

While some feminists, if any read my blog, might question what I have to say next. Please bear with me as I will give complete justification for what I am about to say. Let me find the words that might not offend men and women. I think this hue and cry about equality is all BULLSHIT. Yes, I have said it out in public. It is utter bullshit for women to ask to be treated equally. Men and women are NOT in any way equal. Let me tell you the various reasons why I think so. Please keep in mind this is my opinion and no one has any obligation to agree with me.

Women are supposed to be the fairer sex. We are supposed to look pretty, be pretty and think pretty. We are however not supposed to be stupid, in any way. This talk of blondes being dumb or women not having the brains to handle things in this world is utter crap. I mean if we try and look at the statistics of this matter then I believe women are more studious when it comes to studies. They excel quite easily when it comes to education. When it comes to working and being on top, well then the woman all around the world who work have proved many wrong.

There is not a single field where there isn’t at least one female worker. Now all fields cannot have female workers due to the nature of their work. And ladies let me tell you, all these jokes from men about how delicate we are and all the things we can’t possibly bare to do. Well I have just two things to point out to them: childbirth and our monthly visitors. Now please take these two things and ask this question: why aren’t men asked to go through what we do when it comes to these two things?

Simply, because they are not as capable as women. When nature has handed us the perfect argument to use against men, why bother with all these lame battles on and off regarding who is better and stronger. Silly really, and a complete waste of time. Women I think should learn to accept that men will always underestimate us, but we can always come on top with just a bit of hard work. And yes the gentlemen of this world, who so ever is reading this, you guys are strong and silent and brooding and hardworking and extremely macho.

My post today is in no way a dig at your manliness, even though some of you might prefer waxing your chests for god knows what reason. Please excuse grammar and punctuation errors, but I writing with no a serious burst of emotion. So yes men I appreciate all that you are doing for us. When my father moved away my mother had to do everything. Believe me, everything, this meant going to the gosht wala meat shop, and to pay the bills and to get the chicken. All this was previously my dad’s job. Now she had to do it, and also had to take care of four kids with three well in their teens. We were a handful; we still are in no uncertain terms. But we got through all of it with our mother. As a family we are better and stronger cause of it.

So I am in favor of let the men do all this tiring work. I think women are better off taking care of kids and lording it over their husbands by staying at home. I am an educated independent woman. I haven’t taken a penny from my parents since I started earning. But I still think that apart from that women can get away with a lot of things if they just stop asking for equality. I am sorry if I have offended anyone, I know women have worked hard to getting voting rights and the right to work. They are still battling the inequality at work places and such.

So I am happy that my father will be coming to live with us soon. It will be an adjustment for all of us. But we will deal with it. Because we have been through a very tough time and we have now come to realize that fathers really are a blessing, so are brothers and other male friends who make us feel special and protected.

Well the sad side of the story now. This place had become a getaway for us over the years. Anytime one of us needed a break we had another home to go to. It was easy peasy. But now we won’t have that. We will be mere tourists when we come back next, not residents. Over time I had fallen in love with this place. The quiet and calm of this city. Where roaming around at night for girl is not dangerous at all. I fell in love with the many sales which I could come to and shop my fill. The makeup and the clothes, I fell in love with all of it. I didn’t have to ask anyone to bring me designer things; I could just come here and get it myself.

I had gotten used to the luxury of buying all my cosmetics from, along with my lingerie and other pretty things. But now I won’t have that at all. I will have to ask my friends to get me things when I needed them. But change is the one thing that’s constant. So I will get used to this also. The los will be felt, but life must go on. People like to tell me that a lot. So yes this is the major event happening in my life right now. I’m not at all concerned about anything else except the easy transition of my family with this phase.