Languages of Love

I had read a while ago, that there are different languages of love. They are: words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, quality time and acts of service. While they might sound like something out of those self-help pop psychology; I have found out they are not. Because I seem to have found they are very much accurate.

It is imperative to understand why someone like me would even believe in this. Someone who is so sure of what love is and how to love someone. It really isn’t easy, loving someone that is. Loving someone and still keeping your identity intact. If you have read through my posts, all of them that is, you will have realized that I usually lose myself in the person I am with.

This time around was different and same to an extent. There was no losing of self, however, there was a sense of finding kindred spirit. Someone who understood who I am as an individual and yet, allowing me to mold into the other person. If your partner is someone whose language of love is words of affirmation it might not be so difficult to understand them.

What they require to know you love them, is constant encouragement, affirmation, appreciation, empathy and complete attention with active participation. No one person has a clear single language. They are all there, however one is prominent while the others are at the back burner simmering away. Someone whose predominant language of love is physical touch, need to have constant nonverbal communications, body language, hugs, kisses, physical intimacy.

When two people get together, they should learn to identify each other’s languages. It makes it easier to communicate with each other. And isn’t communication key to a good healthy relationship. And now all I want is some peace, I lost my best friend. I lost the one person I thought was with me. I keep praying for everything to be ok inside me. But I really don’t know if I will ever be able to trust anyone after this. I always knew that when I was with someone it would be it. I hate everything about the human brain. The memories, the images, everything keeps flashing.