Racy, Cheesy or Just Meh.....

Ever heard of a girl being extremely racy without being cheap? Ever heard of a guy being considered cheap for being racy? Double standards? Or just how the world works? Well believe it or not, I will not be discussing the double standards tonight. I want to talk about how girls aren’t allowed to be racy or thought of as someone who can have racy thoughts. I hope everybody reading this piece is above 18, because tonight I feel a little bold.

Before we really get into it, let me give you a little bit of context to what this is really about. I am not a feminist. Even though I might be schooled about the various definitions of what it means to be a feminist, I have my idea of what I am and what I am not. I am completely and totally old school. Meaning what you might ask then let me tell you, you will have to bear with me for a bit though.

So yes, I am a woman, who works, studies, looks after her responsibilities at home, is unmarried, not dying to get married, capable of running her own life (sans the parents in our culture), has big dreams, loves travelling, loves meeting people, who isn’t afraid to throw back her head and laugh out loud, who isn’t afraid of sharing her opinions on things she feels strongly about. I could literally go on and on. So what does it mean for someone like me to be not considered a feminist?

In this day and age, I want a man to pull out my chair, I want a man to earn for me and provide for me, I want a man who isn’t afraid to stand by me when I act like a baby when I am sick. I don’t feel offended when being a woman allows me to get my foot in the door in the corporate world. I do not mind being part of the boys club and I don’t get offended when someone tells me I am being treated how I am being treated because I am a woman. Because lets get real, yes we the women of this world do have to work harder, yes we women are not paid the same amount of money that a man might earn at the equivalent post. However, a woman has the capacity of thinking in ways a man doesn’t.

I feel proud of that fact. Why you might ask, why do I not want equality when it comes to things, is because I am not a man, I will never be a man, and it is foolish to ask for things a man gets, just because I feel someone took my toy away from me. No I like being a woman, I like the fact that I have to work hard, just means, I learn more every day.

So being someone who is old school, I am yet extremely naïve. I mean if you refer to my previous posts, I have labeled myself a cynical realist. Anyways back to being racy. Being a human being, I have been raised among an age when the world was coming to terms with women and them also being human beings. So we were generally not allowed to voice out such things. Well let me tell you, being racy is something which should be allowed.

A man should be able to accept that a woman might be racy. Let’s keep in clean a bit shall we. In a partnership, or a relationship, I’ve seen woman tone themselves down. Why you might is, well because they don’t want their male counterpart to think bad about them. Oh my god do you know she wanted to go for round three? Yaaar she if I don’t want to do it, she gets pissed because she wanted it. Do you know she made a move on him? Did you hear what she wanted to do with him? Maaan shes a tiger in bed, if you know what I mean…….

Ever heard something like this, or exactly this about a girl from a girl friend or a guy friend? I have sweetheart. I’ve heard women as well as men disparage women who are comfortable enough with themselves to ask for more or to go for what they want. We in the subcontinent region are raised to stroke the male ego. Sheesh imagine what would happen to the male ego if a woman wanted to go for another round, and the man was just too tired? It would deflate, or rather yet, deflation would happen in other places.

I am being extremely crude I understand, however, what i really want you dear reader to understand is, a woman is a human being. You being a man should be proud to be with a woman who knows what she wants, because believe me if she doesn’t, neither will she know what you want. How would that feel? A partner who knows how to make you happy or how to satisfy you? A woman, who knows how to ask for what she wants, is definitely a woman who will be able to give you more than what you want.

I personally would like a man who knows how to take control and give control. A guy who holds open the door for you because he knows you are something precious. On the flip side knows when to grab you from the back while you aren’t paying attention to steal a kiss. A man who knows how to woo you by just looking at you. Ever tried to woo a lady? Believe me she won’t come easy, she will see how much is it that you want her until she gives in.

A woman does like being held, passionately and lovingly. Many many many people who read this will scoff at what I have written. I completely feel them, this is something which might not be highly appropriate, and however, I feel that men need to know that it ok for a woman to be racy yet an amazing woman. Men need to know that women also think of how it would feel to have a man want you so much that they would like nothing better than to hold you and kiss you.

Too much for today guys? I’ll leave you with one thought though, a racy woman is not always a cheap woman.