The Age of Coming Out

There is not much to say today. I just felt the need to write. There are so many things happening all at once that I am at a loss as to what to say. Regardless of the maudlin thoughts in my head, the weather is fantastic on my side of the city. It makes me want to dance and jump around.

It also makes me want to go to the beach. YUCCKKHHH!!!!! For all the beach lovers out there, I really don’t like the beach at all. There is nothing good about it. I mean the sand, the water, getting wet, getting sandy, all come at the top of my ‘let’s avoid this’ list.

However, I’m a romantic at heart, I have always loved going out on rides in such weather. I mean if I could just share this beautiful weather with you all I would feel like I am distributing joy. It is something better than the gloom I spread around daily.

But I like to think I am an upbeat person. I don’t usually get upset for long periods of time. Yes, yes, people who have been following my blog (God bless them) would point out that I’m one gloomy lady. But well I’m not. I am the sort who has learned to internalize my pain and not let it show to anyone.

Okay so remember the old days, when the girl came of age and had to ‘come out’ in the society. This was also known as being launched into the marriage mart. Well I can empathize with those girls. I’m at a tender marriageable age, where the only thing on everyone’s mind regarding me is whether I am going to get married or not.

I would like to point out that I really am not missing anything, judging by the rate of divorce sky rocketing nowadays. May it be a love match or an arranged match, let’s face it people the married life is not as rosy as are parents want us to believe.

Let it go on the record that I am not afraid of getting married. Nope, I just want to make sure that the leap of faith that I am taking and uprooting my whole world is worth it. I don’t think there’s any harm in it. Even my religion allows women to say yes or no to a match made by the parents. Now we can’t do anything if our parents pressure us to marry. That is a society thing, not a religion thing. So there is nothing which can go wrong if the girl is sensible enough to make practical choices.

So yes I was saying, my age is ripe for marriage. But what I don’t get is if I’m not in a hurry, why is the whole world in a hurry?? Will they be dealing with the problems along side me? Will they come and help me when my husband turns out to be a cheating, lying scum? Will they provide me comforts when I get abused by my husband?? I’m sure the answer is a resounding no.

I mean I'm not saying all of this will happen. But if it does, I will have to stand alone against the very same people who are pushing me make a match. I will not be bullied or submit to peer pressure in this case. I mean marriage is a thing for the whole life. I mean imagine getting stuck with a guy who drinks how I will raise kids to know it isn’t a good thing.

So this goes out to all the people who think I should get married or ill end up a spinster soon. Please leave me be and find something more interesting to do with your lives.