Bacha+Bachi= Sex (hopefully said the bacha)

Yes, I'm a Pakistani and I can talk about sex. The topic might be. A closeted one, but our youth is still able to talk about it amongst each other. Probably the same with any other culture, though I'm not as good of an authority as I sound to be. 

Anyways, nowadays it seems that very few virgins are left standing. They are like the angels which are seen with great difficulty, or probably never at all..... I'm. It contesting that there aren't any, I'm just questioning there existence in our culture.

Where once upon a time virgins were regarded highly in our society, the bachas and the bachas of today find the concept of staying 'intact' incomprehensible. So let me take the pleasure of talking about the birds and bees again. Incase someone missed the talk.

It goes something like this: the man the woman get together 'after marriage' and get busy. Now might I add that when I googled the birds and the bees, things such as the origin of the story, urban dictionary (for those who are aware of it) definitions, and different tutorials of how to have the talk with the child. Oh well I think the people reading my post will KNOW what it means, preferably experienced it. 

Now before I proceed further, I would like to point out that this is not me being judgmental. I'm all for love and let love.... While the misspell was fluke of my auto dictionary in my phone, I think it is the perfect word. Anyways, like I was saying I'm not judge-y at all. Chalu back to the point we as a society should learnthe difference between the good and the bad. So here goes my perspective on how and what I mean by writing this post. 

First of all we come from a culture of child marriages. My maids 9 month old daughter is already spoken for by her Chachoo ka beta. Now the idiocy of this does not escape the educated class of our society. Hold your breath, sometimes they also take part in some activities. In our society it is a common thought that girls are burdensome. Well, this issue is for next time. For this sole reason, parents like to get them spoken for before it takes too long. 

Ab Baray hokar woi Betia ghar bhy sambhal ti hain (it's those same daughters who take care of their houses after growing up). But unfortunately no one understands that. So, we have fone way off course, back to the main point. It is foolish to blame anyone but the parents themselves. Since it is a taboo even using the word sex, odd find out a lot more from other forums around them.

Every song, every sitcom, every drama; whether western or local makes it a point go showcase sexual under currents. Now what can a young impressionable mind do but forage ahead and gain experience first hand??! 

But let's get one thing straight, such sexual experiences come at costs. They are both emotionally taxing and physically. Now this is how it happens: 

Boy: I really like you. 

Girl: *blushing prettily* really? Cos I really like you too.... 

This is the start of a beautiful relationship where the boy wines and dines the girl. Tch tch wining haram hai. Now as is natural, being emotionally close to someone, a person naturally wants to become physically close. Hand holding, necking, freching, and other such small gestures are truly treasured by the girl and in some cases the guys also. 

Spending time alone, they go from first to second to third base. Please don't ask me to explain the bases; google it. And then comes fourth base..... It may be the first time for the both of them. But sweetheart the effects are different for both the guys and the girls. My extensive research tells me the following:

After sex, the girl wants to cuddle and sleep. While just as naturally the guy wants to be alone, and sleep. It is the normal and natural instinct of the male species to withdraw right after sex. 

Another thing which is different is that after sex, the girl might feel extra attached to the guy. It's not necessary at all for the guy to feel anything but satiafied after sleeping with his bacho. No offense intended. 

One thing I have seen growing in the recent years is the rate of abortions going up. Yes my lovelies, getting pregnant is one of the worst things which can happen to a girl, before marriage, in our society. And the next option is abortion, which is extremely dangerous. And extremely expensive. 

The bachas and the bachis of this nation should get a grip on themselves. Sex is something which should be, yes it might sound highly clichèd, experienced with a guy you know will want to cuddle up with you. Even when his whole body and mind are screaming for him to run. 

A heartbreak is felt more deeply when you pass the final bridge and share your bodies with someone. And being today's generation, try to be more open about having 'the talk'.