Trinkets

So what do you do when relationships end. What specifically do you do when your friendships end? What do you do when you see someone who you have given something to and they carelessly hand it over to someone? To me even if the relationship ended on bad terms, anything and everything handed to me as a gift should be kept as such.

A gift from someone who you once cared about. What should be your reaction when you see they have handed it to someone carelessly. Is it an act of contempt, hate, or is it just something you let go of and never look back on? At the end of the day what should be your reaction.

Should we ask for our things back? Or is it alright to have them handed about and bandied in your face. See relationships are fragile, yes they break, yes they might not be long lasting. But what I believe is that you don’t insult the other person by such petty acts. Or is it human nature to separate yourself from all that is a reminder of them?

Whatever the reason is, I would like to know. I for one, don’t believe in clearing out the space occupied by someone. There is a reason that person was in your life. They were there for however long in your life and made a space. It is very similar to someone you care about moving out of your home. No matter how bad the ending was, you don’t always just clear out their room. Well I suppose some do, and need the space from that person.

But is it really that easy to give that space to someone else. I don’t think so, for some it might be extremely easy. I accept completely that I am a bit more emotional than most people are. But at the end of the day, what I believe is that if the person mattered, the replacement is difficult. People are not interchangeable for me.

I know when to step away. However, strong the urge to go back, knowing when you are cherished and when you aren’t, is very important. You can’t expect someone to be the same. And no two people are the same. This is no way that I can possibly give the same space to someone else. Yes, there definitely are very many people who enter your life. However, there is no replacement for the people you lost.

This is the reason I hate losing people. They leave with a piece of you. And when that piece goes missing, no one else is capable of bringing that piece back to you. But my question to you is whether it is completely normal for someone who once asked you to stay to walk away without any explanation. And place the cherry on top by giving away small things which you once gave to them.